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[quote=Anonymous]This weekend was my son's baptism. We hosted a big party for our family and had about 25 people come from out of town. We live in an urban neighborhood, a few blocks from several hotels. We offered our home to my sister in law and her family as they have two children under two and my early 20s age brother who is low maintenance. All other guests, including my parents, got hotels except my in-laws. My in-laws are quite wealthy but cheap. They tried to stay at our house despite not being invited or having the room. My husband had to have a major talk with them. After the weekend, they decided to stay a few extra days and asked to stay here. While my father in law is a curmudgeon, my mother in law is the worst. She is a very insecure person who is awful to be around. I pride myself on being a like able, easygoing person. I love being hospitable and want my son to have a food relationship with my son. The past few days have been hell. My mother in law thinks that we are best friends. She says extremely inappropriate things. She is extremely racist and classist. I usually ignore her comments and don't give her the reaction she is looking for, say something about her conversation being inappropriate or simply walk away. She thinks she is charming and friendly. In the past few days, she has insulted my parents, family and me. It got so bad, I went upstairs and kicked the wall to let off steam. Examples: inappropriate story about a racially specific Santa, calling my father "new money", calling my cousins who took a cab rather than walk to their hotel "fat", inserting herself into a conversation with a contractor renovating our house. I try so hard to be positive but I really do not enjoy spending time with her. My father in law is grumpy, gets into tiffs with mother in law, never lifts a finger except to play with my son. Neither of them once changed a diaper or offered to help with my son. They clearly love him but will only play with him or hold him. I don't like being around these people to the point that when my husband and I were dating, I contemplated breaking up with him because his family is truly awful. My husband is a wonderful man, one of the most kind and giving people. I have never met more cold or snobby people than my inlaws. It makes me sad as my husband doesn't have the same kind of relationship with his parents that I have with mine. I try to be respectful of them but they are incredibly formal and cold to me. They insist that my husband speak like a child to them " yes sir/m'am" even in an informal setting, my brother in law and I call them by their last name, my MIL prefers to have correspondence in her husband's name and will correct you. The only arguments my husband and I get into are about them. It's hard for me to admit, but I hate them. What would you do? [/quote]

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