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[quote=Anonymous]I'm not going to make it.  My mother is visiting and she is a very unpleasant person for many reasons.  The moan thing bothering me is that she keeps barking at my children things like "why don't you talk to me?!"  Yet, when I suggest to my child bring a game to play with her, and he happily complies, she suggests he play it with his sister.  When I ask my DD to accompany her for a walk and DD happily complies, my mom says in a barking tone, "what are you doing?" To her.   There are more examples.  My kids are not used to being talked to this way.  When I say that was not a nice way to talk to DD, my mom gets mad and blames me for hurting her feelings.  She has no sense that other people (like my 5 year old) have feelings, too.  She is very pushy about "helping" me around the house but when I say that I will handle it -- I don't want her doing dishes on her visit- she just keeps asking and goes on an on about what she wants to do.

This is all in between listening to her complain about various friends and family members.  When she is with them she complains about me.

The older I get, the more I see how awful she was to us kids growing up.  Not physical but just highly critical, not affectionate, not loving, played favorites (wasn't me), and explicitly told us how we were disappointments (this only started when I was in high school or later but was frequently repeated).  I now see how my anxiety/hyper vigilance came about or at least was exacerbated.

I want to have more patience and just tough it out but I am not good at not calling people out on stuff, especially when it involves my kids.

I am sure this was rather incoherent but just needed to spew![/quote]

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