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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People have different ideas of what it means to be successful, and (perhaps related), different ideals of happiness.

I live in a one-bedroom apartment. My sister owns and has to maintain 3 houses. I live just fine within my means. My sister has constant stress. I'm in a happy, low-maintenance relationship. My sister is married to someone more high maintenance, and they've already had multiple marital problems in the 4 years she's been married. I drive a 10+ year old car, and don't worry if it gets a ding. They have newer, more expensive cars, and worry about maintaining their shiny, perfect appearances. I feel happy and confident going to the store or gym simple, and make-up free. My sister wears makeup even when she goes to workout, because she wants to look great all the time. She's on a number of medications for anxiety, sleep-deprivation, etc. I'm on no medications. They're busy all the time. I have more down time.

Financial and career success are important to some people. And that's fine. But different strokes for different folks. I have less stress, I worry less about the external image I present to everyone. I live humbly, but happily, and without nearly as much stress or anxiety.

That said, every person/family has cracks, as pp mentioned. My sister does try and present an image of success and "having it all," but it's a facade. I would not trade my life for theirs at all, and I don't envy it. It sounds exhausting, frankly. We all make different choices, and at the end of the day, all that matters is how you feel without comparing yourself to others. [/quote]

10:13 here - THIS is what I meant when I said everything is relative. Exactly.[/quote]

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