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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's a waste though. That's what I want him to see. I don't mind spending money on "big" stuff (like vacations or private school for the kids) but why spend 15 at Chili's when you can bring just as nice a lunch from home? Probably healthier too.[/quote]

But that's your judgment. Your DH obviously enjoys the cuisine at chili's, or enjoys the break from the workday, or dislikes packing lunch enough so that it's worth it to him to buy it. Would you be happier if he were eating at cityzen?

We have a similar income and my DH spends on stupid stuff like lunches too--and I wish it were chili's or a diner!  I made a conscious decision not to nickel and dime him or even really pay attention to it. It's not that I don't feel it's my place because he makes 90% of the money, it's more that I have seen what that kind of petty conflict can do to a marriage. You bug him about lunches, so he starts bugging you about makeup or shoes or other things you spend on that he thinks are even stupider than lunches out, and it's all downhill from there. If money were tight that would be different, but we live within our means and we're lucky that a few lunches aren't going to derail our long term goals. Think big picture and remember your most important priorities. [/quote]

PP here. The $1000 a month car payment I think is insane, but presumably you were on board with that decision?[/quote]

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