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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh, I have one of these in my family but its my SIL. 
She does it under guise of just "updating family", but really its so she can be a judgemental cow.

I have been told by close family friends (who are also judgemental busy bodies) that they really hope my DH and I can save enough to move out of our tiny one bedroom condo.  These people have never been to my house - so where did they hear that from? Hmmm? SIL told them. 
Said SIL was also the one who upon seeing someone's new huge bathroom at their first family dinner said infront of everyone  - well OP, you entire place would fit in here!

These are all people who are impressed by what job you do and how big your house is. I am sick of them.

I find the best thing is to avoid seeing them, and when we do see them, our lives are great is the main line of the day.      
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Me too! My SIL is [i]exactly[/i] this way. She uses personal information about other people (family or otherwise) as social fodder, so that she's always the center of attention in conversations because she has juicy info to share. And she has no respect for boundaries or personal information. When this started (she wasn't always this way - was very shy growing up, but in her early twenties "came out of her shell" by using other people's information to advance her own social objectives), my husband and I were floored, and immediately withdrew. We still hang out, but do not share personal information that we wouldn't want passed on. It makes for very shallow chatting, but works for us. I was really frank with my husband about it at the beginning, just said I was no longer sharing personal information with her because of how she uses it, and he agreed, so it was easy as a united front. The other thing with her is that she's very competitive with me, so she'd want to know everything I ever bought, so that she could buy it too.  :roll:  She literally has tons of shoes and clothes that are identical to mine (she'd ask where I bought them, and go out to buy the same ones  :shock: ) and even bought my favorite car (one that I could not afford, but that she knew I loved  :shock: ) and bought a house very similar to ours, when previously that had not been her style at all ( :shock: ) - very single white female. Anyway, we just stopped sharing info about anything, and it created major awkwardness for awhile, but we reached a new normal and have a nice civil relationship with her, wherein we are very careful what we share.  [/quote]

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