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[quote=Anonymous]My DH (and some of his family) is like this.  I was raised to be 15 minutes early for everything.  I consider it highly disrespectful to be late like this.  I told him if he showed up late to our wedding I wouldn't marry him!  He was 90 minutes early. Of course, his brothers, who were in the wedding, were 30 minutes late!  I literally had two lifetime friends of mine in the bride's room to give them the brothers' roles when the boys finally showed up.  My brother was ready to throddle them!

DH has no idea how long anything takes and tries to squeeze in whatever he can before he has to be somewhere.  For the wedding, the bros went to get breakfast!  I have learned to walk DH through the logisitics of some things (like when we are traveling) so he understands how long the steps will really take.  I long ago started telling him that events are XX minutes earlier than they really are if those commitments are important to me.  If it is for dinner or something where I can start without him, I will start without him, including feeding the kids.  He hates it.  Therefore, he has learned to be more on time.   I no longer will plan any events with his brother because he showed up 5 hours late to my daughters 1st birthday and ruined everyone's day because my MIL was pacing around sure something had happened to them instead of focussing on my family.  I so feel your frustration.  I appear to be a bitch to the family, but I am no longer frustrated.

As for you, OP, stop having MIL babysit.  Tell you are cutting her off from events she needs to be timely at until she can be on time.  She may then realize it matters to you.

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