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[quote=Anonymous]It's interesting that almost all the posts so far are throwing the blame almost entirely back onto OP.

Maybe OP doesn't communicate perfectly, and maybe she's critical, but a man of 38 who not only yells in front of a toddler but also gives a 48-hour "silent treatment" to his wife is not entitled to do those things just because his wife communicates poorly or even if she's overly critical (and we don't know that OP is doing either, really).

The silent treatment is a definite red flag. It's used by people who are controlling and cruel, or by people who are so immature about communication that they think they "win" if they get the other party to cave in and beg them to talk.

OP, it sounds as if you and your husband seriously need couples counseling focusing on communication and on your perceptions of each others' responsibilities at home. You see him as more focused on work than on home and you say he sees you as a traditional housewife who's not doing her job to his standards. You both need a third party to give you some objectivity. While it's nice to think that some "couples time" or a break from your child would help, what you describe sounds like it would just start up again the moment you both got back home. Don't depend on a night out to resolve the way you communicate the rest of the week.

If he flat-out refuses to go to counseling with you, go on your own and see if you can improve the communication on your side of the equation in ways that will model better communication for him. If he is nasty and abusive about the idea of counseling, that's another red flag about whether he is mature enough to step back and have  any objectivity at all; if [i]you[/i] don't want to get counseling--well, consider why you wouldn't want to learn to communicate better with your husband and in front of your child.[/quote]

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