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[quote=Anonymous]When my kids were baptized I ask my brother to be a Godparent. The priest he knew (an uncle on his wife's side) would NOT write him a letter because he and his wife never attended mass.

I knew this could happen. 
To be a Godparent, you can have one non-practicing Catholic and one practicing Catholic. I asked my sister in law (on the other side) to be the other Godparent. Her kids went to Catholic School and she attended mass weekly.

She called me, sheepishly, and let me know that in the eyes of the Church, she was not married.  She had eloped, had 2 kids, and never gotten the sacrament of marriage from the Church.

So in spite of several sacraments, and 3 siblings, my Irish Catholic husband and I could not scape up "Catholic in good standing".

My SIL had her vows renewed/marriage blessed in the interim and carried the weight for my brother, who clearly stated he planned to not choose a church until he knew which one had the best preschools for his kid (Jewish, BTW) and we got on with our day.

If the reason you need this letter is to be a Godparent, ask the parents who the other Godparent is and if they are more in line with the obligations of the church. You may not need the letter.

Or, you could see this as an honor to be a spirtiual leader to a baby, and give an hour a week back to God/your grandparents. Imagine if you went with them?  1000 grandparent points!!

Up to you.

FYI, for kid #2, we asked a family member who was really at odd with The Church, out of love, and asked another Godparent who was in good standing, big time, but depressed. It was a really nice experience for all of us, b/c the one who was kinda anti-Church felt pretty "embraced" and the other one (who we might not have chosen if we didn't know we had to 'pick up the the slack' for the other one) was so over the moon about the honor, it made our whole family closer.

Good luck.   My trick for finding a mass I could stand when I was younger was to listen to the beatitudes.  If it was all "one issue we talk about all the time" I didn't return to that parish. If it was "we pray for "a variety of people in a variety of circumstances related to social justice cause I believe in""I would go back. I also did better at masses that were on Saturday evening or Sunday night. Holy Trinity in Georgetown was a good one! [/quote]

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