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[quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't change my relationship with my niece or nephew just because they didn't reciprocate the relationship. I love my niece and nephew and go out of my way to have a relationship with them. My sister doesn't show the same level of affection or give the same time to my daughter. I think its her loss and at the end of the day, I want to be proud of the aunt I am and not miss out on a relationship because someone else chose to minimize their relationship with my child. Just because she chooses to be one kind of aunt doesn't mean I can't be the aunt I want to be. If that makes sense? I would feel like if I altered my relationship with my niece and nephew because my sister doesn't make the same effort with my children I would be doing it out of spite.
Have you or your DH mentioned that it hurts your feelings and that your child is noticing this change and his feelings are hurt? Or when she sang that song, did you mention to her how much it meant to him?
Ultimately, it's her relationship to cultivate and if she chooses not to, it's really her loss. I can see why your DH feelings are hurt, sometimes it hurts my feelings too. Although, I don't know what their relationship is like? My sister and I aren't super close and she isn't someone I confide in for support, etc. so I take the relationship for what it is. But I try not to let my hurt feelings about the differences affect too much because it's not worth it. I would rather maintain a peaceful relationship with her knowing what it is and maintain a close relationship with my niece and nephew than lose on all relationships all together.[/quote]

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