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[quote=Anonymous]It sounds like she's pushing, pushing, pushing and doesn't realize how manipulative she is being. I'm not sure pointing this out is going to do a lot of good, because she may read it as more rejection.

Maybe it would easier and more effective to manage her expectations. Maybe tell her how much you value her and want her in your life. Acknowledge that she wants pictures and news about her grandbaby. Explain that you are really, really busy on weekdays and are just keeping your head above water between working, cooking, cleaning, and being a parent. But you will call her and send some pictures every Saturday night (or whatever schedule will actually work for you). If she knows she's going to be hearing from you regularly and that you are sending her what she hopes for, she might feel less needy.

It sounds like she uses FB. Have you considered snapping little pictures each day and uploading them to your wall, or into your "family" circle on Google plus. My husband does this several days a week (he loves the Smartphone), and its a lot easier than sending pictures to several family members individually. We just put them up, and then others can decide how often they want to be tortured/delighted with our baby pictures.

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