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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Two reasons.
1. I hate my body right now.  3yr post-baby and I'm horribly out of shape and very very self conscious about my size 12 body.
2. He isn't high touch except when he wants sex.  I've tried to tell him that I'd appreciate the every day types of hug, kiss, caress for no reason as that generally makes me feel treasured and attractive.  Even pre-baby this wasn't him.  now that I'm more self conscious, I feel like I need more than ever to know that I am attractive to him not just when he really wants sex.

I love him.  He's handsome and in shape but our sex life is a mess.[/quote]

Totally legit, but fixable. 
1) your body image is yours. No one can refute how you feel. But If it makes a difference, his image of you might be far more positive. Sexy is between the ears! I've seen big women and had to pick my jaw up. Not because of clothes, or a pre-kid gym body, but crazy hot because they saw themselves in a certain way.  Small things can also help how you feel, like a short power walk each evening (after the ice age ends), stuff like that. Pounds and dress sizes are way less important than how you feel. Trust me  I'm a man.

2) yeah, I'm not big toucher, either. Just never was. I find ways that work for me. Hug from behind, goofy handshake. Whatever. Bridge the gap of touch in unique and creative ways. Point is, maybe he can find ways to show he still sees the woman in you...I hope so. Might take a lot of short, uncomfortable talks, but you'll get there.[/quote]

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