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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are a lot of reasons I don't have sex with him. Here are several:

1. when we met, he had rock hard abs & worked out 3-4 times a week. he flossed. he's let himself go physically, gained significant weight & i'm not physically attracted to him anymore.
2. he used to have really good manners. I was very open about being a bit prudish and not finding any sort of toilet humor funny and he respected that when we were dating. [b]Now he'll turn the music down in the car or mute the tv when he farts, he'll scratch and adjust his balls and ass in front of me, will say things like "That log was bigger than the Titanic!" when he exits the bathroom. he belches loudly.[/b] 
3. he's taken to picking his nose. he [b]doesn't always brush his teeth [/b]and I don't think he flosses at all anymore. 
4. I'm exhausted. I am "on" from 6am to 10pm or later to get everything done. If the other things weren't an issue I'd rally, but ...
5. I'm angry at him. He never does ANY housework unless other people will clap for him. Which means that if I want him to do anything I need to have company over. Then he'll loudly announce "Sorry to step away; the wife is begging me to empty the trash."  He'll tell the kids he's too tired to play after I manage to talk him into putting away the leftovers after dinner or something. 
6. He used to be so complimentary and protective in public of me. That's changed. In December we were out with two other couples for dinner, and I got a phone call that my aunt who was like a second mother to me had died unexpectedly. I knew I was going to cry as I apologized to the table for leaving for having taken a call, and again excused myself to the restroom. As I walked away DH told everyone I must be on the rag. He says things like this ALL THE TIME. And ANY time I get upset he asks if I have my period, as if my negative feelings are invalid. Once, just for shits and giggles, I tracked each time he said it and then asked him "Do you realize if I really DID have my period each time you asked that I'd have had my period for 84 straight days?"
7. He brags about "babysitting" the kids. If I leave them all in the den while I go take a shower he will immediately start calling people to announce his babysitting status, post about it on FB, etc. This is after we had lots of talks about equal parenting pre-kids, and what that meant. We have three girls, and almost any time they ask him for anything he will redirect them to me claiming it's a "woman's job" as if real men can't do pigtails or tie shoelaces or put a broken toy back together. I am terrified my girls will grow up thinking this is what marriage should be like and will seek out a man like him.

If he'd stayed the man I got engaged to, I'd be giving it up a few times a week for sure. But I hate this man, and don't even want to hold his hand let alone be naked in front of him. [/quote]

Here, too.  I say, "that's disgusting," and go about my business.  And yet, he keeps doing these things.

It is disgusting.[/quote]

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