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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes....send the message.  Make it unambiguous.  Some people want things to work out, and will read anything that can be used to let down easily as a a chance.  Some of these people are simply naive.  Watch the romantic comedies:  how many started when she blows him off, but they end up together (e.g., When Harry Met Sally).

I know.  I am a male, and when in college, I misread the social cues, and did not realize I was stalking a girl.  She was totally freaked out by me -- and I thought I was doing romantic things.  She never said no.  She said things like, "I am busy then."  This was before rampant electronic communications...So I arranged to run into her.  One day, the campus police talked to me.  My only defense was that she never said no....only not today.  I thought she was hinting at me.  I apologized to her (through the police).  I saw her once after that, about 2 years later, as I was leaving Blacksburg for the last time (at the gas station).  She said hi, and that was it....or was it an opening :).  I have no idea where she lives, nor do I care.

My point is guys often get mixed messages...some women want to be pursued...hard to get.  There is a line between stalking and romance.  It is a fine line.  It has to be drawn unambiguosly.  "I am not interested in going out with you. "   [/quote]

This is really good advice! As a female, I'm guilty of not being as direct as I should be in a situation like this. My first choice of action would be to not respond at all. But if I did respond is probably not want to hurt his feelings and not be direct. I can see how the non-direct approach could be misconstrued. [/quote]

Agree. Thank you for posting this. Many, many women need to read this.[/quote]

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