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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sure I'll be lampooned for this, but need to vent my frustration at my wife being unemployed for 4 years. She left the workforce when our first ds was born, and has been looking ever since. In all that time, she's only been invited for ONE interview, and nothing has materialized from anything she's tried. Anytime I raise the subject she gets incredibly defensive, tells me I have no idea how hard she has it being a mother, etc.

I brought in a babysitter half time so she could have more time to invest in herself and her search, but we are getting nowhere. Just found out we are pregnant again which is a joy and a financial pressure. It also means further delays to her finding something.

Can anyone relate to this situation? I hate to admit being resentful, and also secretly wish my wife were capable of earning money to help with bills.[/quote]

Would you feel differently if you were making a higher salary and did not need her pay check to pay the bills?

There are great benefits of having one parent at home and raising the kids. Having a baby for a woman might mean a change of priorities for her. Also the job market being soft means that she may not be able to be employed.

I think you both need to work out a strategy where she can take a few courses towards getting a degree, diploma or certification that will make her employable when she needs to go back to work.   You should also make a plan that will allow you to get more professional qualifications that can let you advance in your career.

Discuss this calmly. Without laying blame, without forcing the other person or belittling them. without being ruled by fear.
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