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[quote=Anonymous]Sorry OP that you are getting the mean comments, as I am the second poster that wrote about equalizing presents. To make a point my kids are young (4,5) but they understand presents.  They do not understand that the world is not fair when sister in law brings 4-6 extra presents for her children from other relatives when these could be opened at home. It is in bad taste. Sorry if you disagree but that's is how we feel.  We have other presents from other relatives and those are left at home.  We don't like to make people feel bad that they don't have more presents to open.  We have to travel a long way to get there as well.  When the kids were two and three no problem, but now that they are older it not nice.  I do not buy presents on the other childs birthday.  
But my Inlaws do!  When it was my daughter's third birthday they bought the other grandchildren presents so they would not feel bad.

As far as how much I spend. I used to try and buy things that sister in law said the kids were interested in...and the toys, etc were thrown to the side because there are so many presents from my inlaws and the other inlaws.  The oldest child is 9 and said oh you only gave me one thing...it was a very expensive lego set...and so and so gave me 4 presents.  SIL did not say oh we don't say that or you should say thank you to Aunt and Uncle, etc.

For the record, my inlaws come to our house and say oh they had a great vacation, we don't ask them to cook, we don't think of them as our babysitters and try to plan fun things for them to do but the love is not there...they spend their whole time saying I wonder what they (SIL and family) so yes it causes resentment. I'm happy for those of you that have great IL relationships.  [/quote]

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