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[quote=Anonymous]My husband has been in recovery for 20 years so my perspective is somewhat different, but here goes.  Stop asking "how was the meeting," are you still in the same group, how is recovery going, etc.  First of all, how was the meeting is like asking how was work.  Meetings are generic and follow the same format.  Someone shares their story about alcoholism, hitting rock bottom and getting sober.  Some stories are tedious, some are inspiring.  Some days the recovering person is into it, some days the mind wanders.  There are many feelings.  It's impossible to sum up an answer to "How was the meeting."

He may go to a lot of different meetings before he finds the one he likes the best.

If he's only two months in, staying sober is all he's thinking about, 24/7.  Having you ask generic questions like this is probably anxiety provoking and he really can't do more than come up with one word answers.  It's like being surrounded by hungry aggressive wolves, barely keeping them at bay, and having someone asking you every few hours "How's it going with the wolves?"  It's just tedious and kind of silly.

I would say be cheerful, be supportive, be loving, don't put up with any shit from him, go to Al Anon yourself, keep no alcohol whatsoever in the house.  Do not ask him to accompany you to "Holiday parties" where alcohol is served.

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