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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every couple's equation is unique.

I would be over the moon if my DH initiated more sex, more frequently and aggressively - even if I was not in the mood.

But then it could be because as an avid reader of romance novels, I view sex as an extension of  his love for me and my desirability.  [/quote]

OP - this is kind of what I was thinking. As it is now, my initiations are kind of lackluster, to be honest. Rejection stings in proportion to how much effort I put into the initiations. If I say, "wanna do it?" and she says "no," it's not so big of a deal. If I pick her up and start carrying her off to the bedroom and she says "get off of me" that hurts more. But, if she's in the mood, or at least open to the idea that night, carrying her up to the bedroom is much better than just kind of asking in a half-assed way.

As for the other PP, I think the non-sexual touching, conversations, doing nice things, etc. might be the missing ingredient in certain marriage dynamics. But I don't think that's my situation. I think we have a fair amount of that going on already.  If I added more of that stuff to our current dynamic, my suspicion is that it would come off as weak, needy, and unattractive. [/quote]

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