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[quote=Anonymous]I'm the "other OP" whose thread you characterize as a witch hunt.  What you describe is certainly one way to interpret it. I see it much differently.  An anonymous forum is anonymous only so far as people divulge what others need to know to understand the situation but is not so specific as to be identifiable or to link that poster to prior threads.  She was indiscreet in being overly specific about exact jobs, exact incomes, exact age of child, and more... in each of her threads.  As I wrote in my thread, I did not go to great lengths to connect the dots; I ran a three-word search related to her career situation and bingo, everything was there.  So... is it the burden of the responders and the site administrator to protect her from herself, or is it her burden to write posts with essentials that are not overly specific?  I still think it is grossly unfair to the many readers and writers who invest themselves in a thread to pull it because a poster starts to regret what he or she has posted.  You are only anonymous until you out yourself, so don't out yourself.  And if you realize you have done so, point to the specific message(s) that you request to be deleted; don't pull an entire lengthy thread.  And don't repeat the same identifying details in thread after thread if you don't want people to connect the dots!

By the way, ironically, I did identify in each of her threads with the details she should not have shared.  I am in her same career and took several years off to stay at home.  My ex-husband was in the identical career position of her husband.  I did 99% of the child raising, whether I was SAH or back in my career.  At least my husband was kind and reasonably emotionally supportive.  But with vastly different priorities, eventually we divorced and are both happily remarried, and our kids are unscathed.

I truly did not think I was witch-hunting.  I truly wanted to help.  I think what she needed more than validation was the "tough love" approach to start to see how she could make the best of the situation or else get out of it.  But yes, I was frustrated when her thread got pulled after I spent so much time, and I was frustrated again when my thread got pulled.[/quote]

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