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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like you've thought a lot of this through OP, and are on the right track with the 1 month trial run.

I'll throw in my own perspective, as a nanny.

If the family I work for were to have a grandparent move in, it would be a HUGE issue for me. I am assuming the GP would spent some or most of the day at home, and would not be staying holed up in an office the way WAHP's do. This is disruptive to the nanny's daily routine with the kids, and is confusing for the children to be told "nanny's in charge, even when GP's here" when GP might want to break the rules or sneak treats or whatever. As well, nanny might feel like she needs to answer to the GP in a way. Even if the GP was just sitting in the living room reading the paper or whatever, it significantly changes the work environment for your nanny.

I would find this incredibly hard to work with - frankly, I would not stay if a GP moved in. I might sound selfish or intolerant, and that could not be further from the truth. I think this is an awesome idea and I really hope you guys can make it work. I just wanted to throw in my $0.02 advocating for the nanny. Sit down and talk with her, and be very clear about what it will be like if/when he moves in. You may have to give her your blessing to quit and find a new nanny who is okay with this arrangement, or a new childcare option altogether.

Good luck![/quote]

One or both of my parents used to visit for extended periods when the children were young.  They were family.  A nanny is not the boss of the family.  If I were OP perhaps the best thing would be for the father to visit for long periods [have his private room etc] and get a smaller place in his home area since he still has an active life there.  Friends and other family.[/quote]

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