Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you've thought a lot of this through OP, and are on the right track with the 1 month trial run.
I'll throw in my own perspective, as a nanny.
If the family I work for were to have a grandparent move in, it would be a HUGE issue for me. I am assuming the GP would spent some or most of the day at home, and would not be staying holed up in an office the way WAHP's do. This is disruptive to the nanny's daily routine with the kids, and is confusing for the children to be told "nanny's in charge, even when GP's here" when GP might want to break the rules or sneak treats or whatever. As well, nanny might feel like she needs to answer to the GP in a way. Even if the GP was just sitting in the living room reading the paper or whatever, it significantly changes the work environment for your nanny.
I would find this incredibly hard to work with - frankly, I would not stay if a GP moved in. I might sound selfish or intolerant, and that could not be further from the truth. I think this is an awesome idea and I really hope you guys can make it work. I just wanted to throw in my $0.02 advocating for the nanny. Sit down and talk with her, and be very clear about what it will be like if/when he moves in. You may have to give her your blessing to quit and find a new nanny who is okay with this arrangement, or a new childcare option altogether.
Good luck!
Anonymous wrote:Does he have financial problems and that is why he wants to move in?
Otherwise, I think he should just come visit a lot.