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[quote=Anonymous]MIL is visiting and we are about half way through the visit.  Yesterday she did something unforgiveable, IMO and she and I had a terrible row over it.  (Without getting into details, it involved the safety of my child, her grandchild - and my kids are older, so it was not something "generational" like I wanted my child to ride in a booster longer than she thinks needs to happen - MIL's actions would have been outrageous and unacceptable in any generation!)  Anyway, not only did she do the terrible thing, she also refused/refuses to accept any responsibility for what happened, and in fact all she did was blame everyone else - her grandchild, me, DH, etc.  She is a textbook narcissist but nothing has ever impacted my kids or me as directly as this has.  It is the first time I have needed to confront her and witness her lies, denial, blame of others, etc etc.  Anyway, the problem is that I do not know how to move forward for the rest of the visit.  It is really hard for me to act "normally" around her, make pleasant conversation, etc., without knowing that she understands the gravity of what happened and her part in it.  But that is not coming - I realize that.  For the past 24 hours I have been alternating between (1) ignoring her and feeling guilty for treating an honored guest so poorly, and (2) acting/talking "normally" to her but feeling that is an implicit acknowledgement on my part that MIL has nothing to feel sorry for.  How do I get through the rest of this visit?? DH are in total alignment over this, by the way - he is so upset about what happened and is struggling with the same issues I am.  [/quote]

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