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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Honestly, a 73 year old woman is about 60 years too old for the silent treatment behavior. [/b] I would tell her that you really enjoy that she visits and you appreciate her effort in trying to help with the yard.  And that you are sorry for an outburst -- you are not ungrateful for her help with the yard.

Then you should tell her that if she is angry with you, that is understandable but she needs to communicate.   You cannot have her being passive aggressive in front of your daughter,  as it sets a terrible example, but it seems that will be the way things would have to be if she continues her behavior.  Thus, if she would like to avoid communication with you she needs to end her visit.  Right away.  Tell her you'd be glad to help her pack and see her out.  You can drive her to a hotel until she can drive or fly home.

Treat her like the badly behaved teenager is she is acting like.  Sorry this is stressing you OP.
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I agree with the bolded part and nothing else, except maybe communicating to her that this is not how you want your kids to see adult relationships.  If you kick her out you're turning the situation into a war, which does not seem worth it. [b] You can't fix her.  If she is 73 she has found a way to get away with this behavior for a looonnngg time.  She is a passive aggressive pro.  Do not engage[/b]![/quote]  OP may not be able to fix her, but she also doesn;t have to put up with it.  (And by the way, it's years of "well, it's just Mom being Mom" attitudes that have allowed her to get to this place.  OP, if you want to put up with this for the rest of her life, do nothing.  If not, take a (long overdue) stand.  [/quote]

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