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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, he is a good husband and a good father (like you said), thats hard enough to find as it is.  As a man, I am sure he is not happy with the situation either, as most men feel worthless when they are not contributing financially.

Are you sure he isnt going through some form of depression? have you asked how HE feels about this circumstance? [/quote]

I think the PP makes a lot of sense.  It took my brother nearly 5 years after being laid off to find a job in a similar field.  It took quite a toll on his self-esteem and his marriage.  Talk to him about how he feels and what his expectations are.

This is definitely a stressful situation for the both of you.  I would sit down with him and work out the numbers--mortgage/rent, home repairs, groceries.  Find where you can cut back and figure out what he'd need to make as a minimum to keep things afloat.  If he needs to update his skills, that's going to cost money, so you need to budget for that too.

Please verbally express how appreciative you are of what he does with [b]no[/b] strings attached, e.g., honey, thanks for making dinner, but did you look for a job today?  Also, give him a block of time kid-free in the evening/weekend where he can apply for jobs online, update his resume, etc. but also time to re-charge and relax.

Hang in there, OP.[/quote]

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