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[quote=Anonymous]OP here.  FIL is definitely living beyond his means and has no desire to make any changes.  He has a significant offer who spends a lot of time with him- both are financially struggling, but they don't want to sell either of their homes or marry.

Brother in law is in the will to inherit 49% of the property as it is.  I suppose the plan is to add some sort of addendum to the will to accommodate the mortgage supplement.

Brother in law has some mental health issues and lives as a hermit 30 miles from the nearest grocery store.  It would transform his life to be able to live in that house, but DH feels he doesn't deserve it/won't be able to afford the mortgage or maintain the property well.  He currently lives in a trailer that is filthy and poorly maintained.

I am in a marriage where I am financially dependent on my husband, and therefore feel I must tread lightly when it comes to asserting myself about this.  His father made a lot of sacrifices to raise him as a single parent and my husband feels beholden to him on many levels.  It's hard to know the child needs to become the parent.  Until FIL gets his head out of the clouds, this is not going to end well.  [/quote]

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