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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The emotional side of my brain would be upset. The rational part of my brain would try to keep it in perspective.

She might just have liked that picture, not because it didn't have you, but just because.

Life is easier if you go through it assuming that folks are not intentionally trying to harm you, recognizing that sometimes people can just be thoughtless. You can feel good about being such a supportive family member, and just remember there will be many more years you will be interacting with this person.

If over time you get multiple examples of her being thoughtless or intentionally dismissive/rude, then you can protect yourself from hurt feelings by distancing yourself from her. Don't have to shun her, just [b]don't go out of your way for her[/b]. Just don't let this one thing forever sour your feelings towards her. Give her a bit more time.[/quote]

Exactly this. You went out of your way for her -- was she grateful? Did she thank you or recognize your efforts?

If not, stop going out of your way for her. Be cordial and nice, but don't offer anything more than you want to, and if she asks for more, just say you have other obligations.[/quote]

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