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[quote=Anonymous]I'm in a bit of a tough situation. My parents, particularly my mother, have become hoarders. The clutter is not the issue - it's the 5 dogs that routinely go in and out of the house (and take a dip in the pond only to be towelled off before being allowed inside and on the furniture) and the 5 cats that live inside as well. My parents do not clean. When we visit (DC is about 6 hours away), we have to stay with them and everything is covered in dog/cat hair, cats on the kitchen countertops, dried cat food on the counters, filthy couch, etc. etc. Normally DH and I suck it up and bear it, but I am now 8 months pregnant and over Christmas had a convo with my mom about the house and how I did not feel comfortable bringing a baby into those conditions. I told her I was not trying to fight with her, that I was genuinely concerned and that I wanted to be able to visit them with the baby. She completely shut down, gave me the silent treatment for the duration of our visit and then did not call me for 4 months! I let it lie, as I figured she was angry with me for bringing it up. Finally, my dad reached out and they came to visit us in DC. Not one word of our discussion or of the issues I tried to address. They literally acted like nothing had happened. Now, I'm 5 weeks away from giving birth and nothing has been resolved. I want them to be involved in my child's life, but I don't know how we can visit them? They are pushing 70 and I feel bad expecting them to come here all the time to visit, but I'm not sure what to do? Anybody else ever had to deal with anything like this? I wish we could talk it out like normal people, but they are completely unreceptive. So frustrating! [/quote]

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