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[quote=Anonymous]You need to examine WHY she annoys you.

If she did or does something that actually impacts you, then you need to figure out how to prevent her behavior from impacting you in the future. For instance, I know a mom who, whenever I would fall into conversation with her for any length of time, would start talking about a specific quality my DC has and giving me unsolicited advice about it. I found this incredibly annoying, and every time it would happen, I would walk away from the conversation feeling kind of irritable. So I just figured out how to minimize our interactions so we were never talking for long enough for her to bring this up, and since then I have zero issues with her. We are still very friendly and even text and coordinate for our kids, but I just changed my schedule slightly so I'm never talking 1:1 with her for more than a couple minutes.

If, however, you are annoyed by something about her, that has nothing to do with your interactions, you need to work on that yourself. Like if you are envious of something about her, or she reminds you of someone else in your life that you have strong feelings about (like a sister or a former friend). That's not something she is doing, it really has nothing to do with her. You can avoid her if it helps, but if you do it in a really obvious way it could wind up punishing her for your own issues (or her kid, which I would be especially careful of -- don't let your adult hangups result in a kid being ostracized or feeling disliked). But really the best thing is to work through those negative feelings so that you can let it go and stop seeing her in that negative light.[/quote]

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