You need to examine WHY she annoys you.

If she did or does something that actually impacts you, then you need to figure out how to prevent her behavior from impacting you in the future. For instance, I know a mom who, whenever I would fall into conversation with her for any length of time, would start talking about a specific quality my DC has and giving me unsolicited advice about it. I found this incredibly annoying, and every time it would happen, I would walk away from the conversation feeling kind of irritable. So I just figured out how to minimize our interactions so we were never talking for long enough for her to bring this up, and since then I have zero issues with her. We are still very friendly and even text and coordinate for our kids, but I just changed my schedule slightly so I'm never talking 1:1 with her for more than a couple minutes.

If, however, you are annoyed by something about her, that has nothing to do with your interactions, you need to work on that yourself. Like if you are envious of something about her, or she reminds you of someone else in your life that you have strong feelings about (like a sister or a former friend). That's not something she is doing, it really has nothing to do with her. You can avoid her if it helps, but if you do it in a really obvious way it could wind up punishing her for your own issues (or her kid, which I would be especially careful of -- don't let your adult hangups result in a kid being ostracized or feeling disliked). But really the best thing is to work through those negative feelings so that you can let it go and stop seeing her in that negative light.

I have a neighbor who annoys the heck out of me. She’s mean and talks about people behind their backs (including the location a widower chose to have a memorial gathering for his dead wife) and then goes on about her brand name (?) flip flops, purses and expensive cars.

When she approaches, I gray rock the mean gossip and change the subject to something like travel and vacation.

Put your house on the market and move to another school zone.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well no, I do speak with her. I just avoid as much as I can. I guess I will start ghosting her.

You said you make sure not to talk to her.

?

She probably doesn’t want to talk to you either.

Grow up.

Wow, this is a pretty snarky response here.

Who pee’d in your Corn Flakes PO…..??! 😝

- Not the OP

OP was snarky and followed up by contradicting herself. She’s annoying.

I had a neighbor like you. It was evident I annoyed her because I quietly set boundaries and didn’t engage in gossip. She was loud and immature.

Oh boy. Move to another planet maybe?

Pretend to be listening to a podcast and give her a nod.

Can you tell us the reason this neighbor annoys you so much??

Could it be she is just loud, abrasive or brash?

What do you dislike about her?
Are you jealous of her having a handsome husband or a nicer yard than yours?
Or is it a different language accent?

Anonymous wrote:Well no, I do speak with her. I just avoid as much as I can. I guess I will start ghosting her.

You said you make sure not to talk to her.

?

She probably doesn’t want to talk to you either.

Grow up.

You need to just learn to let things go. You are driving yourself crazy because you just keep focused on it. Let it go. When you say hi, what exactly is she doing that irritates you so much?

I can't stand a couple people I have to regularly interact with. I'm polite. There is no ghosting. Being annoyed by it is literally just wasting my own emotion and time.

Well no, I do speak with her. I just avoid as much as I can. I guess I will start ghosting her.

You don’t even speak with her, but her mere existence irritates you to this degree?
Grow up.

I have this neighbor who I just cannot stand. Her kid is also with my kid in the same grade level, so in addition to the neighborhood, I also have to see her at our school playground. How can I stop feeling annoyed every time I see her? I already make sure not to talk to her. But oh gosh - she annoys me so much.