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[quote=Anonymous]I am feeling like I'm screwing up every step of the way.  I want to help my 2e daughter, but I feel ill-equipped.  I kind of feel like I am sabotaging her and I can't stop myself.

I'm working with her to overcome her challenges - one thing at a time.  We talked about how to overcome procrastination.  There was a lot of resistance, as expected.  She says the strategies won't work.  She says it doesn't apply to her, because it doesn't describe what her issue is.  And when I ask her what her issue is, she cannot say.

Take yesterday.  I told her to just accomplish one thing.  And you know what, she went and repotted her plants that were all dying and had just been sitting neglected.  Which was great.  But it was a 5 hour activity for her.  She left a giant mess on the dining table outside.  I tried to bite my tongue, but I couldn't help myself.  I said, maybe it would have been better if you did on the patio?    She missed dinner with the family.  And she was up late finishing up.  And so then I had to tell her ok she needs to wrap it up and clean up when it was past her bedtime, and I got short with her because I had to tell her like 10 times.

On the one hand, I wanted to celebrate the fact that she got something accomplished.  But then I kind of crapped all over the accomplishment.

The worst part is that I could not shut my mouth today and said maybe she should have chosen smaller pots for a couple of the plants.  She had chosen jumbo size pots for little tiny plants that like to be pot bound.  So that basically sent her on a 3 hour research project on how to pot plants correctly.  Instead of going outside on this beautiful day, she has been inside researching how to do it correctly.

Please help me stop unwittingly being her worst enemy.[/quote]

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