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[quote=Anonymous]I’m dad to a 19yo. She has a job, but is really struggling with getting up on time this summer. She tends to stay up until 1–2am, which has always been her pattern, and then says she’s too tired when I wake her at 9am for work.

Even after she gets up, I still have to walk her through everything. She’ll stay in bed for another 15–20 minutes, and then needs help finding basic things like her shoes, socks, jacket, phone, or keys before she can leave. I often have to remind her to get in the shower, brush her teeth, use deodorant, figure out whether clothes are washed, check the weather, and make sure she has everything she needs for work. If I don’t prompt her, she can spend a long time wandering around looking for things or sitting in bed on her phone, or she’ll go back to bed and miss work entirely.

I’m trying to figure out what is normal at this age versus what is enabling. On the one hand, she has a job and generally does well once she gets there. But it feels like I’m still managing much of the process of getting her out the door every day.

How can this become easier for her?[/quote]

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