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[quote=Anonymous]Title pretty much says it. 8th grade DS really does not have a "friend group" he was at the edges of a loose one but it's pretty clear most of the guys there no longer want to associate with him. One guy that he felt closest to kept pushing off plans and now there was an outright slight/nasty comment on social media.

Socially, there was a series of "why middle school sucks" examples.

Outside of that group he has a close (I think) friend who he made in elementary but they are in somewhat different social groups (through activities / family connections the friend is often with more popular kids) and mainly hung out 1:1 at random times. I am not sure if this friend sees my DS as a "secret" friend.

DS has another friend from childhood (went to school together until 2nd grade/start of Covid). They became really close over zoom and was his main person to meet up with as thing eased up. Even now, they remain(ed) in touch, seeing each other at least a few times a year. However we have been the ones to initiate all of the recent plans, and it's now been months since they got together.  I am torn whether it makes sense for DS to reach out or if this might be another slow fade. I almost wish I could ask the mom if her son wants to remain friends with DS (of course, I can't).

Both of these guys will be going to his high school.

Personally I am less focused on friend groups and both DH are not really in one; have more independent friendships. I know this dynamic modeled behavior is not helping. However, I know how important a friend group is in high school.

DS will largely be around town this summer a short program/camp on his own and family travel and I know he wants the basics of just being able to hang out and for it to not feel like a Major big deal to go to the shopping area/mall, pool etc...he just wants that to be an ordinary normal thing and it seems unlikely that will happen.[/quote]

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