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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't care about such things, OP.

I have a gifted, highly functional teen who achieves effortlessly. I also have a now-adult child with autism and ADHD who had to work very hard for decent grades and benefited from accommodations.

In our house, we praise EFFORT. Not awards. Awards are meaningless.

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Would you put in balls-to-the-wall effort at a job for 15 straight years with no pay raise or promotion or being employee of the month? You would be fine with seeing all the praise go to your coworkers and you never get acknowledged for what you've done? Would you be fine with that? I would get not. School is our kids' job. They need occasional rewards, awards. To say awards are meaningless is stupid.[/quote]

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Again, I reward effort. My neurodivergent kid needed to work 10 times as hard as the average kid (and about 100 times as hard as his sibling). I consistently praised and encouraged him in his efforts. [b]He was rewarded multiple times, not for his results, but for his labor, dedication and resilience in the face of his hardships. [/b]

My gifted kid is currently breezing through AP Calc BC and AP Physics C as a 10th grader. She has won multiple competitions in her chosen musical instrument (has performed solo at Carnegie and the Kennedy Center), has won writing competitions, paints and draws in her free time, and just got a very selective paid internship at a Smithsonian institution at barely 16. How could I celebrate her achievements in a way that doesn't sink my other child's very minor achievements? I do not. I praise her efforts too. This week she worked diligently through AP exam sets - and I will reward her for her diligence, just like I rewarded my son for his.

I don't understand why you are not understanding this. And I repeat. Awards are meaningless. What matters is the effort put in.

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