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[quote=Anonymous]We’ve only been married a few months and are already expecting (due late October). My wife has always wanted lots of kids right away, so we didn’t think much about timing at first—but now she’s really focused on birth months and can’t seem to figure out what she thinks is the “best” one. She’s already talking about trying to plan it more carefully for future kids.

Here’s basically how she’s thinking about it:
-She wishes we had waited and timed it better instead of ending up with a late October due date.
-She wants a birth month that lines up well with school cutoffs and doesn’t put the child at a disadvantage.
-She cares a lot about weather and the “feel” of the month—she doesn’t want birthdays during colder, darker, more “boring” times of year where parties might feel sad for the kid.
-She doesn’t like months tied to transitions like August because it feels like “back to school” and not a fun, celebratory time, to her.
-She’s thinking about how age lines up with the calendar—for example, with late-year birthdays (August/September or later), the early part of being a new age falls during winter months (Jan–March), which she sees as kind of dull for kids. By the time spring/summer comes around (May through the warmer months), the child is already close to their next birthday, so in her mind they “miss” enjoying the fun part of being that age during the best time of year, and when a year is recalled, and the kids birthday falls towards the end /(vs the beginning), they won’t be their official age for the year till the end.
-She’s even mentioned that some months feel more “girly” or more “boyish,” which I don’t really know what to make of.
-She also brought up that being born very early or very late in the year feels weird to her in terms of how people think about age and years (like January feeling tied to the previous year, or December meaning you wait a full year again for your next birthday).
-On top of that, she’s thinking about generations and how kids are grouped—she feels like being born very early or very late in the year makes it feel like you don’t fully count with your peer group or generation in the same way.

I’m trying to understand where she’s coming from. For those who’ve thought about this (or tried to plan it): is there actually a meaningful  best birth month, if so which? [/quote]

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