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[quote=Anonymous]I mean this is such a DC thing.

People equate busyness with importance, and DC culture is very status conscious. I think part of it is that people do in fact make themselves extremely busy with work, volunteering, side projects, travel, kid activities, and socializing, and they are genuinely overwhelmed, but also feel like this is just what you have to do to be a successful adult in this area.

But also there's a layer of proving that they are important and worthwhile with their busyness, like "look look I'm doing all this stuff, see how important my life is, see how meaningful and impactful I am???" It's insecurity.

I definitely used to be more like this, especially pre-Covid and before having a SN kid and dealing with my own health crisis. But those things combined just killed it and now I aim low, value my downtime, and when I get feelings of inadequacy or worry I'm being "left behind" by peers or that my life isn't important enough, I go to therapy. Or journal. I've also been through the phase where I just burn out, procrastinate on everything and numb myself by watching TV and playing games on my phone. But I let go of using busy as a coping mechanism.

I agree it's off putting and makes it hard to relate to other people. But I just tell myself that person is going through something, it's not about me, and go on with my day. Which is not busy most of the time, for which I am very grateful.[/quote]

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