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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My own kid is in a private school.  We wanted private school because he was tormented in his unscreened pre-K by two kids (one diagnosed and one not).  It was a nightmare since he was a target for bullies. We were dreading public school with the Russian roulette of violent bullies.  It takes public school a long process to shift them to another school if at all.  If your kid is adept at avoiding these types of kids, public school is for you and money saved.  If your kid seems like more of a target, private school may be worth the cost. Our school is quick to nip the bad behavior in the bud and potentially counsel out behavior problems.  Note that this is the current climate of private schools and not what happened like a decade or more ago which people love to post to paint the entire private school experience as what happened in their day.[/quote]

Both of my kids went to public school. The older one was a passive, somewhat awkward kid who easily could have been a target (he was actually bullied a bit in pre-k at his very fancy private pre-school until we solved the problem). Both were in IEP classes early on which is likely where kids with behavior issues would end up. No issues what-so-ever. Partially because we chose a very good public school with a good administration that nips these things in the bud. If something had happened, we would have immediately contacted the principal and it would have gone away (like we did at the pre-school, though their response was slower than it should have been).

And we would have taken steps to help our child manage the situation - this is an important life lesson. You're not going to spend all of life in a sanitized bubble (especially in NYC). And not that anyone has it coming to them, but a lot of kids who get bullied do things that make them targets - not that they deserve it but small changes can help - when my son was bullied in pre-k we looked in the mirror and realized that there were things he could be doing to help the situation as well - everyone wants to blame the other kid.

Sorry you had the experience you did and I'm sure you are not alone with them but the broad, ignorant generalizations are not OK. Also note that there is someone who posts repeatedly here whose kid was frequently bullied at a private school with no response from the school. So this is not just a public school issue.[/quote]

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