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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband, now ex, decided to cheat and then move out. It's been about a year and on the days that my children aren't with me, I struggle to get out of bed and do basic self-care tasks. When my kids are around, it's totally different and I am able to to magically pull it together, but we alternate weeks so every other week is a nightmare. The challenge is being away from my kids and then when they come back, hearing them talk about my husband's affair partner as a wonderful new mom to them. They are young, which is a blessing for them and their resiliency but so hard for me to be away from them. I do have friends who try to reach out, but I can't stand seeing their happy husbands or feeling the pity in their tone. I have a therapist and it helps, a little, but at night the thoughts creep in that this is it for me, I will never be happy, again, I will limp through the rest of life. I vacillate between extreme anger and hatred for my ex and periods of intense self hate where I think about everything I have ever done wrong that pushed him away and ruined my life. Clearly I need help. I know I'm not the only one in this situation. How did you deal?[/quote]
It’s called grief not necessarily depression.  The belief that your family would last but your ex blew it up, the loss of what was (before cheating), what you hoped it would be and it’s not etc, and why it never will be again; not seeing your children daily etc.  So sorry.  When I was divorcing I set the arrangement so that I would see the kids each day if only briefly.  I would take to school every day regardless of where they spent the night.  Sorry.  It’s hard. I would suggest finding a good therapist if you don’t have one already. Signed clinical therapist.  [/quote]

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