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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wwyd? He is 15… he was sent to his room (grounded till lunch time) due to disrespectful behavior (cursing at both parents, yelling)… now, he is throwing things at his room to the floor…[/quote]

I would need more context to have an answer.

My first question is whether the throwing things is destructive, and if so whose property is it destructive to.  Throwing things that damage walls, or that create damage (like something made of glass), or that don't belong to him (like the furniture) is different than slamming his own belongings to the floor, so I'd respond differently.

The other thing is that clearly there is a significant amount of disregulation here, and this kid needs professional help.  For many kids with this level of disregulation, the fact that he accepted the consequence and went to his room, rather than running out of the house, and that he turned his aggressive impulses towards objects, rather than people, is a huge win.  Maybe that's your situation, maybe it isn't, but knowing whether you think there's potential for behavior that is far less safe than throwing things to the floor in the safety of his room, would make a difference in my response.

Having said all of that, my first advice is to wait until he is totally regulated to deal with this.  Increasing the level of disregulation by engaging now is definitely a mistake.  [/quote]

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