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[quote=Anonymous]I recently joined a group activity (think pickleball—large rotating group, switching partners/teams, fairly social). Overall it’s been welcoming and pleasant.

One man’s behavior toward me has shifted in a way I can’t quite place. At first, he was one of the most welcoming. After a few weeks, he became the only person in the group who actively ignores me. He won’t greet me, won’t respond if I speak, yet at the same time, he frequently stares at me, but when I make brief eye contact and smile, he responds with what feels like a hostile glare. He’ll also speak at me (commentary, instructions), but if I try to respond, he immediately turns away to speak to someone else.

I’m not engaging beyond normal politeness and haven’t had any conflict with him. Everyone else in the group is consistently friendly. A friend suggested this could be “negging,” but that doesn’t quite fit, it feels more like an attempt at intimidation after an initial period of friendliness.

I’m mostly curious how others would interpret this shift, and whether the consensus would be to ignore it entirely, address it directly, or simply let it be and focus on the activity, which is hard when he’s constantly glaring and speaking at me only to ignore me. [/quote]

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