Some people are just weirdos. Avoid them.

I'd run too.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone posted something very similar to this last year, but it was her co-worker ignoring her at the pickleball place.

My issue is that he WON’T ignore me, but also, now that you mention that word, it’s like he’s engaging and then ignoring when I try to engage. So weird!

You're nuts. You literally said "After a few weeks, he became the only person in the group who actively ignores me. He won’t greet me, won’t respond if I speak,"

SO which is it?

It’s both! Hence my title!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone posted something very similar to this last year, but it was her co-worker ignoring her at the pickleball place.

My issue is that he WON’T ignore me, but also, now that you mention that word, it’s like he’s engaging and then ignoring when I try to engage. So weird!

You're nuts. You literally said "After a few weeks, he became the only person in the group who actively ignores me. He won’t greet me, won’t respond if I speak,"

SO which is it?

Anonymous wrote:Someone posted something very similar to this last year, but it was her co-worker ignoring her at the pickleball place.

My issue is that he WON’T ignore me, but also, now that you mention that word, it’s like he’s engaging and then ignoring when I try to engage. So weird!

Maybe you have bad breathe.

Anonymous wrote:He has a crush on you and his wife noticed and is pissed about it.

This is a real possibility.

Another option - in between you joining and him getting weird did you reveal that you have a boyfriend or a husband? He could be salty about that.

Anonymous wrote:. A friend suggested this could be “negging,”

How old is your friend group?

Someone posted something very similar to this last year, but it was her co-worker ignoring her at the pickleball place.

Anonymous wrote:Just ignore him.

I try, but he’s just… always there, looking at me, or doing that weird thing where he talks in my vicinity. I want to say something but also don’t want to provoke him. I’m annoyed because I really enjoy this activity with this group!

Stop taking things personally. Everything is not about you. He may have something very serious going on in his life and is distracted. He may also just have ADHD.

Just ignore him.

Anonymous wrote:He has a crush on you and his wife noticed and is pissed about it.

His wife isn’t in the group. He’s not even married, he’s a divorced single dad.

He has a crush on you and his wife noticed and is pissed about it.

I recently joined a group activity (think pickleball—large rotating group, switching partners/teams, fairly social). Overall it’s been welcoming and pleasant.

One man’s behavior toward me has shifted in a way I can’t quite place. At first, he was one of the most welcoming. After a few weeks, he became the only person in the group who actively ignores me. He won’t greet me, won’t respond if I speak, yet at the same time, he frequently stares at me, but when I make brief eye contact and smile, he responds with what feels like a hostile glare. He’ll also speak at me (commentary, instructions), but if I try to respond, he immediately turns away to speak to someone else.

I’m not engaging beyond normal politeness and haven’t had any conflict with him. Everyone else in the group is consistently friendly. A friend suggested this could be “negging,” but that doesn’t quite fit, it feels more like an attempt at intimidation after an initial period of friendliness.

I’m mostly curious how others would interpret this shift, and whether the consensus would be to ignore it entirely, address it directly, or simply let it be and focus on the activity, which is hard when he’s constantly glaring and speaking at me only to ignore me.