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[quote=Anonymous]My freshman wants to transfer from their medium sized school.  This has been a pretty consistent opinion since about 6 weeks into school last fall.  There have been times that things got better but it's never really gone away.  They're a very social kid who historically had many friends (that they keep up with closely) and no difficulties making friends but they're just not finding their people at this university.  They have made one good friend but long for a bigger community. They've done all the things: clubs, club sports, religious organizations, etc. Their hall was not a source of friends and their roommate is nice but super introverted and spends most of their time in the room (so is not a help in the friend-making department).

It's hard for us to not worry that transferring will just kick the can down the road.  What if the next school is also a bad fit?  Also people keep telling us that social things will get better spring of sophomore year. But the hear and now is that they didn't want to go back to school, they want to come home now. They are not depressed (they see a therapist and I really don't think it's depression) and again, they've never had difficulty making friends before. They changed schools for high school and had to reinvent their social scene at that time and had no issues whatsoever. It just seems like the culture of the school is not a good fit.

Anyone in the same place or have experience with this? I don't even know how you convince colleges to take a transfer for this reason. I'm sure they get transfers who spell out "bad fit" but it's generally not what they want to hear. Grades are good but the thought of starting everything again from application to new student orientation seems horrible. We have an older child and they just settled into their school (different one) and never had a hiccup.[/quote]

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