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[quote=Anonymous]Seems to me from what I’ve read and experienced is that drug abuse/addiction and mental health issues/illness, either together or separately are the cause.

Some of the mental health things I’ve read about and also experienced that led to fear of violence and actual violence are schizophrenia, bipolar, attachment related including reactive attachment disorder. These and drug use can lead to psychosis and then all bets are off.

I’ve had to have my now adult child hospitalized and removed by law enforcement many times due to violence both before and after age 18. I had to file for a peace order. I have family that has had to do the same though for different reasons (drugs vs mental illness).

Almost a decade ago I developed an escape plan that was quite elaborate and I practiced it. I moved at one point because there was no real means to get out of if I needed to.

Thing I learned is that everything is a weapon and you cannot ever make your situation safe. The idea of locking up knives and all of the other things doctors and laypeople say about making your environment safe are a joke. I mean, even your jar of pickles is a deadly weapon either because it can be thrown at your head or broken so the glass can be used to cut you (or them). That being said, we would never have guns.

Scariest thing was a prolonged psychotic period where there were multiple voices. At that point all predictably was gone and I was the victim of a violent attack.

Here’s a thing though. It is almost unfathomable to imagine the child you love with all of your being hurting you. It’s different than denial. You literally cannot imagine it. And then all of a sudden you’re making an escape plan.

Here’s another thing. You wouldn’t ever guess this is our life. We both work high level professional jobs where we are respected , are very involved with our kids and at their schools, kids were involved in activities and sports. We’re just so typical for this area.

Anyway, we are fortunate. After about a million metal health providers, we finally found one that would prescribe what was needed for success. With complex situations so much is contraindicated and avoided but that was what was needed. And puberty ended. And covid is over. We are more than two years since the last period of psychosis. And I don’t practice the escape plan anymore. [/quote]

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