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[quote=Anonymous]DD is trying to repair a friendship with a girl in her class. They had a falling out and both acted poorly in my opinion (basically talking negatively about one another). 
Now the other girl has cut off DD and appears to be encouraging other girls to do so too (the other girl is the queen bee type so they may just be following her example). This has been very upsetting to DD and she is having a hard time.

DD admits she has played some role in this situation, and she wants to reach out to the other girl to apologize for her part in it. I have no idea whether the other girl would acknowledge that her own behavior has been hurtful but I do not think DD should hold out any hope for that.

DD is not trying to be close friends with this girl, but she wants to make amends so she can be on speaking terms with her and not be ostracized by the others. The isolation has been the worst. I am encouraging her to seek out the company of other people but that will take time. (I don't believe any of these girls are her true friends but I have not said that directly because she is so fragile.)

I suggested DD give the other girl a call but she says that would be "weird." I am in the dark ages apparently. She thought about texting her but is afraid the other girl will screen shot the messages and show them to people. She could try to talk to her at school, but there is basically zero chance she can speak to the other girl alone there.

What would you advise your child in this situation? I realize that most teen social situations should not have parental involvement, but she is asking me what to do. I am genuinely worried about her because she is lonely. Again, I know this person is never going to be a good friend, but I think it would help if DD was back on speaking terms with her.  
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