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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I posted recently about school vs private evaluation about our 8th grader.

Our biggest issue right now is that our child’s denial and opposition to anything and everything we say, and the fact that she keeps getting into a spiral with the amount of time she spends on homework. She stays up til past 11, wakes at 5, she’s not eating or sleeping properly.

And now that she feels betrayed that we shared her struggles with the school and an outside service provider, she’s being very secretive about it to hide how much she’s on her computer doing homework. It’s affecting her health, both physical and mental. She’s not keeping up with any of the basic family expectations (like helping to set the table and clean up after) and she has zero social connections outside of school. I feel like I’ve exhausted every strategy and approach.

She’s also been flagged repeatedly by her pediatrician for falling off the growth curve so she’s simply not eating enough calories to grow. We’ve been following up with specialists on that issue which she is also extremely angry about, and denies there’s an issue and is basically accusing us of torturing her with unnecessary tests. She sees all of this as a literal horror story of people torturing her when nothing is wrong with her.

I’m at my wit’s end. What else can we do? Trying so hard not to get into a power struggle with her, but [b]I feel this is becoming such a serious issue and our gentle approach has NOT been effective in any way. 
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As a mom, it’s really hard to see our child go down this path and not know how to help.

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Correct.  Your "gentle approach has NOT been effective in any way", and you let her spiral further and allowed too much time go go past.

Grow up.  Be a parent.  Take away the laptop, get her medication.  Don't wring your hands in helpless despair because your CHILD doesn't know what a healthy routine looks like or her own limitations regarding devices.

This is your fault.  [/quote]

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