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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 34 year old daughter has struggled with self confidence issues for much of her life. She never finished college due to struggles with depression, anxiety and what I suspect was misuse of one of her medications. Her father and I likely had some part to play in her early failures as I suspect we were both in some denial. She was a mostly B student at a difficult college prep school, yet failed almost all of her college courses.

I recall her coming to use in high school claiming that she wasn’t ready for college, but we both just brushed it aside and felt she was being “difficult.”

Now, here we are all these years later and while she is employed, she only makes $52,000 a year and has never fully reached her potential in life.

She came to my husband the other week and expressed to him how much guilt she holds over her failures and not living up to our expectations.

We still help her pay for things as I don’t think she could support herself without some assistance. She lives with her partner, who recently graduated from med school and prior to that was living in an apartment that she rented from us (we purchased it as an investment property)

I’m struggling to know when enough is enough when it comes to support. We have the means to do it, which is why we still do. She has a job, she’s not living at home and she mostly has her mental health back in order…but financially and career wise she is struggling while watching the girls she went to highschool with in our small town flourish.

I guess I’m not entirely sure what my question is - just seeking to learn from others who maybe have been through something similar

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Surely she's matured. It's not too late to go back to school and try to complete her degree, even if it's baby steps at community college. Does her employer offer tuition assistance?  If her partner just graduated from med school, money's going to be tight for a while, maybe 7-10 years.

Point is, she can try to better herself and improve her lot in life, still. Encourage her to do that and try to put financial support behind that effort. Especially if you didn't have to pay for four years of college. [/quote]

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