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[quote=Anonymous]Low income nerd, introvert, and jock.  High school was VERY hard.  I didn't get the grades the really good nerds got.  I wasn't super-social because I was introverted.  And I was good at sports, but not a star.  I didn't hate high school, but it sure wasn't a time that I bloomed.  I did much better in college.

I think teaching kids to be resilient is key, regardless of their innate personalities.  Teach them to problem solve, make sure they have an expansive social network (not just school, for example, but outside groups), provide them with opportunities to succeed, remind them that some things will come easily while other things require hard work.  And that as they become adults, their world gets bigger, with lots of different types of people in it.  That in itself makes it much easier to fit in somewhere (and be successful at something she likes to do).

As for successful or not?  I'm a lawyer, married, one kid, good job, healthy, and get to pursue some hobbies like travel.  I'm not a superstar of any sort.  But my life is good.

My brother, who was not great at school or sports, was Mr. Popular.  He was handsome, had the best clothes, best haircut, best car, best girlfriends.  His life is very much defined by struggle now, in his late 30s.  Divorced, problems with his kids, struggling with his job. This is all anecdotal, of course, but his maintaining his focus on being popular and having the prettiest girlfriend/wife led to his failure to not develop other aspects of his life.  "Pretty" and "handsome" and "cool car" don't get you through the tough times everyone faces eventually.  Focus instead on being more well-rounded and resilient.  [/quote]

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