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[quote=Anonymous]Everyone always has their issues but when you say "drama" I imagine the way people can be in their 20s and 30s, where there can be a tendency to make a big deal out of every problem. Like I remember when I was in my early 30s, a friend had to do some extended travel for work (like several weeks somewhere) and she made a HUGE deal out of it, every conversation was talking about what a burden it was and how she had to get a longterm cat sitter and would have to travel from the remote location for a family wedding and that meant changing plane tickets. I remember literally weeks of discussing this work trip with her. In retrospect, it was incredibly dumb and she was just worked up because she hadn't traveled much for work before, plus I think she sort of enjoyed drawing attention to it like "look how important my job is!"

I never have friends with that sort of drama anymore. It's a childish approach to life and everyone I know has outgrown it. Same with petty friend dramas about being mad at so and so or gossiping about friends who are on the outs or whatever. You just move on from that stuff.

However my friends still have problems sometimes. Recently a friend confided in me about a tricky issue with her ILs and how she and her DH are navigating it but it has been stressing her out and keeping her up at night. I confided in her about moving one of my kids to a new school this year and how even though it had gone well, it surprised me how much anxiety I wound up having about it, and how many little ways it impacted us to be at a different school. But we weren't dramatic. It was just like "this is what is going on with me."

So in that sense, none of my friends have "drama" like they used to. We are older and wiser and can handle most things ourselves, but also it is nice sometimes to tell a friend what is going on or to admit to them that something has been weighing on you.[/quote]

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