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[quote=Anonymous]My DS8 is on a soccer team.  This is the first year for the kids to have a professional coach.  We've seen a lot of growth in their playing in the 6 weeks of this season.  The coach is professional and seems to be a bit tougher on the kids than a parent coach. There isn't lots of praise for their playing but lots of discussion and practice of what they are doing wrong or what needs improvement.  For the first game, the coach gave the players that were taking practice seriously the most playing time and didn't play the others as much.  Many parents were pissed until they found out that was what he did.  Basically, if your kid was messing around at practice then they don't get to play much.  The kids straightened up after that.  They are all playing now, but the time each kid plays varies.

My son is a pretty good player.  He is one of the starters and has scored at least one goal every game.  However, my son seems to be losing the spark for playing. He wasn't excited that his team won or that he scored a goal in the last game. He told me the other night that he always feels like he is not good and always doing everything wrong.  He also said he is confused that he tries to do X like coach told him to do but then coach is telling him to do Y. (his words, not mine) I know the coach needs to instill discipline and may be a bit stricter than what he would be for older kids. This crew of kids on the team all come from the same elementary school and are buddies who would goof off the entire practice.

I don't want or expect my kid to be coddled.  My kid was one that played almost the entire first game, so we knew that he was not goofing off at practice.  I'm fine with him being benched if he is goofing off at practice.  I'm more concerned with his loss of "spirit" when he is actually trying hard at practice.  My husband and I have been completely hands off beyond introducing ourselves to the coach.  Do we say anything?  Do we say something like, DS is telling us he is confused about what you want from him and he doesn't feel completely comfortable asking questions.  I'm just not sure what to do in this situation.

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