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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't engage. Just smile and say, "Okay, thanks for sharing. Do you think the Redskins will win this weekend?"

They can share all they want.  If you and your partner commit to "Okay, thanks for sharing" and quickly change the subject, they'll stop.  And if they don't, just cut your visits short.  "Okay thanks. Gotta go!" [/quote]

Here are some things that work for us:

"Thanks, we'll think about that."

"Interesting.  We'll keep it in mind."

"Hmmm.  We'll think about that."

"Interesting.  We'll ask the pediatrician next time we see her."

The key is to listen in a way that makes the other person FEEL HEARD.  You don't have to have a two-way conversation about it.

You never have to explain why you disagree or have chosen a different approach.  In fact, if you find yourself doing that, you've gotten sucked in to a conversation you shouldn't be in.  Just back off and given a thoughtful, "Hmmm.  We clearly need to think more about this one . . . . . "  And then change the subject.

GL.  :-)

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