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[quote=Anonymous]I am a man 35 I have a a group of friends male and female one of the ones I'm closer to is a woman. She could be considered a best friend also have a close male best friend to.
I am dating a woman for a few months now and she's told me that me having a female best friend makes her uncomfortable. She says her discomfort stems from her dad cheating on her mom as a child, and two relationships one where a man claimed to be single and she only found out about the wife when the wife called her. And another when the guy  decided he wanted the best friend or they flirted with each other not entirely clear on that.  She owns that these are her issues and she's working on them ( therapy) but she's not comfortable with it.
To be clear she hasn't issued any ultimatums and she's always been cordial to my friend.
I guess I'm struggling with what to do as a boyfriend?. I don't love the idea of dropping my friend as she was one of the people who helped me  during a hard time in my life. I also really don't want to screw things up with my girlfriend and I want to make her feel secure.

I'm getting conflicting advice . I've heard drop the friend and drop the girlfriend and ask my girlfriend what I can do to help her.

So what should I do?[/quote]

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