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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. All feedback in writing. Person references past trauma so it sounds like a them problem. I obviously don’t say that but feel as though they are skirting responsibility and trying to avoid future constructive feedback. I don’t know how to respond when someone cries about a past employer abusing them. It’s awkward and raising red flags.[/quote]
What past trauma and how does that relate to the feedback.

I have documented past trauma (workplace and otherwise), but it has literally only come up twice in my entire career. Once when a male colleague got extremely hostile and combative, that triggered some responses from an abusive past relationship. The behavior was unprofessional regardless, so I didn't have to share the trauma. Another time when I felt very strongly, with incidents I could point to, that a male colleague was being dismissive and uncooperative based on my gender. This time I did share prior experiences where there was clear gender bias at work with my manager to show how they linked to the current behaviors, but I didn't specifically cite this as trauma even though I was probably more emotional about it.

Employees are people and they have lives and history, so you will sometimes have to account for it. But this doesn't seem reasonable.[/quote]

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